A New Ladies' Man: Getting the Girl
by Colin Mortensen
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Author: Colin MortensenEdition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Published)
Published: 2003
ISBN: 0972048995
Number of pages: 272
Publisher: Cambo Publishing
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Summary: 4 Stars
Colin Mortensen's book, "A New Ladies Man" (2003) is basically a guide on how to not be socially inept (although, the author never comes out and says this.) It seems that people can get away with being socially inept until they hit puberty. When they are forced to mingle with the opposite sex they discover that they have a problem. Nonetheless, Mortensen explores being confident - a trait that leads to being socially ept - amongst Family, Friends and Females (Three F's).
Colin goes about instilling social skills into readers through humor. Every chapter exploits some humorous gag, and if this book weren't in the self-help section of a book store, it would probably be located in comedy.*
Nonetheless, there is enough advice inside the 3/4" book that grants the read as self-help. For people who never realized it before, Colin notifies the reader that the first step to getting a girl is to get her to notice you. This seems obvious because if someone doesn't know you exist then you can't date them. Nevertheless, many people are blinded by this obvious point. Furthermore, many people don't realize that there are ways to attract the attention of other people. For example, speak to them. That might seem far off, but Colin feels that it works and I agree.
Mortensen continues on throughout the book describing how to get a date with a girl, how to please them, and, eventually, how to crush their heart. I was most impressed with the section on how to please a girl. It was the only section that I didn't object to. Mostly because Mortensen has discovered that, in the bedroom, the way to girls heart is by eating something other then a piece of Trident ( although, CM does designate a section of his book to hygiene). It seems that CM has reaped the benefits of this discovery, and he willingly passes on the information.
I did object too much of CM's advice, though. This seems expected considering that Colin wrote the book as a manuscript for mature adolescents, an oxymoron. (People call adolescents mature as they elbow nudge their friends to hint that these adolescents are sexually active.)
Mortensen advises the reader to act "cool." By this he means, pretend to dislike your interests and like what's "cool." We all know that CM got his start on MTV - the main authority on what is cool, but give us a break. Pretending that you are interested in something that you have no interest in is bad advice, and very uncool. Furthermore, it is bad advice to conceal your true interests.
For anyone still reading this, I will clear up what should be done. When you talk to a girl, try hard to be interested in what they are saying. Maybe they know about something that you never knew about and might be a better person for learning. Ask questions. Direct the conversation anywhere interesting. In addition, try not to talk much about yourself. If the girl is self-centered you will not be asked a single question about you (you may be asked a million about her) and the conversation will likely end with her still knowing nothing about you. On the reverse side, if she is cool she will ask you questions and you will know that she's somewhat interested in you. The point of the conversation is to figure out if you like this other person, not to make this person think you are "cool" by creating a false persona and acting aloof. That's pathetic.
In addition, a guy's saving grace is comedy. Colin adds humor to his book, but never says to use it. Be funny. Even in a conversation with a self-centered girl who will bore you with every detail about her life, and the life of every celebrity she is obsessed with will go off well if you can make her laugh, even if your jokes are directed towards her, or her idol Jessica Simpson. And they should be. Girls are used to getting teased by guys and in this case they won't cry about it because they know that you like them since you are spending your precious "cool" time talking to them. (Hint: Work on your funny. The joke should make you laugh; she will learn to laugh at herself with time. There are no apologies needed when the laughs get going.) My biggest gripe with younger guys is that they are afraid of making moves. Being afraid is a waste of time, and exhibits a lack of confidence. "Nut up."
I'm not trying to bash Colin. Mortensen probably wrote this at a time when he felt that all women were self-centered (at least all the women who showed off their cleavage enough to attract his attraction... I wonder how that coincidence occurred) and boring enough to handle useless phone conversations that reaffirmed the girls Greatness and the guy's Coolness. These are superficial relationships. If you want to bang a broad who is showing you her cleavage just give her the eye. These girls are begging to get laid, and you can get them to soak through their panties without so much as laying a hand on them.
On the whole, the book is decent enough to skim through. Here and there, Mortensen gives advice that ranges from really good, to flat out wrong. If you are a sex novice and are still intimidated by all of the acts you will soon hope to find yourself participating in, this book could give you some confidence and know-how.
In terms of solving social ineptitude, the book falls short. It is likely to be difficult for someone with no social skills to decipher where the good advice ends and the bad advice begins.
I'm giving this book a 4. Despite the fallacies. I liked the book because I find Colin's naive boyishness endearing. It's a turn on to see him struggle his way into manhood while also dealing with life, and his hormones. When he gets to the sections where he explicitly discusses sex I'm soaking wet and begging for more.
* Bookstores could also place this book in the romance/sex section.
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