Punished By Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
by Alfie Kohn
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Author: Alfie KohnEdition: Paperback
Audio: English (Original Language); English (Unknown); English (Published)
Published: 1999-09
ISBN: 0618001816
Number of pages: 448
Publisher: Mariner Books
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Book Review: ...what's it ... NOT ...all about --- ALFIE ???
Summary: 1 Stars
Why do I seem to be getting that...cuumbahhya-ya...feeling? A paradise lost in the grimness of reality. This reality, the nature of energy
teaming-up with biology, can compete against the elements of DOOM... and actually WIN !?!?!
Yes, LIFE itself is chock-full of that most dastardly component we all find ourselves reckoning with ...[CHANCE]. Give/take, win/lose, up/down,
blessed/cursed, and so on. We all take risks of some sort every day of our lives with a hardwired neurological reward system in our brains.
Mr. Kohn has many valid concerns and makes a fairly good case for most, in his book: Punished by Rewards. The only problem seems to be that, if these issues were to be resolved- the lion would likely be layin' with the lamb. At this point their would be NO need in educating our kids or even taking a bath...no work - no sweat.
The claims made by Mr. Kohn are contrariwise to that which drives our entire national economy and much of the entire world. And what's more...
he provides NO alternative plan to pursue should everyone adhere to this mindless quest into shrillsville. Yet others have tried things like:
NO GOALS SOCCER, EVERYONE GETS A THROPY-(same size of course), OUTCOME BASED EDUCATION, SELF-ESTEEM CIRRICULUM, WERE ALL EQUAL, EVERYONE WINS !!!
Too much of ANYTHING can prove toxic, including something as essential as water. Extreme levels of scorn, as well as praise have their deficiencies and maintaining the acknowledgement of such is parentally imperative. It may very well be that 'rebellionism' is genetically linked to 'growin'-up', so the proverbial cards could be stacked against us. Finding ways to avoid such extremes, that could either lead the child into 'slackernomics'
or 'richie-richdom', are simply NOT provided in Mr. Kohn's book. He seems 'hellbent' on ideas that may be theoretically useful, early-on ...
yet when the 'corner' is turned and reality emerges - a toxic-shock of this thing overwhelms the little tyke...and the early years are said to be the most difficult undo what's been done.
From page 115 Mr. Kohn states; "Conservative economic principles are out of place when we are talking about what children need and deserve. What they need, as I have said, is UNCONDITIONAL APPROVAL and ACCEPTANCE -
the very opposite of verbal rewards, and especially of tough praise. What they deserve, I believe, is what they need."
WOW !!! Man...that is 'deeeeeep'. Reminds be of Mr. Obama's most clever claim that..."we are who we have been waiting for." Look's like "we" bought it.
I just don't "buy" the idea that people should be reprogrammed to provide goods and services to each other merely out of our compassion for equality and fairness. Their is a distinct difference between fair, unfair, and WRONG. When things go wrong, challenge 'em,(oops...competion),
then if a resolution is not mutually attainable, consider the rule of law.
Our great nation I truly love and fully respect, with ALL her faults. Yet one area of the Declaration of Independence that rings just a 'tad' off key is; " all men created equal ". How can we , as Humans/Americans be [SPECIAL/EXCLUSIVE/UNIQUE/DISTINCT], and EQUAL at the same time. Also, the founders failed to mention the WOMEN or CHILDREN... but most of us realize the intent was to include us all. Our very freedom, liberty and independence
all require a delicate balance of AUTONOMY within the TEAM. A type of AUTONOTEAM that rewards achievement and rarely calls for punishment
(when ethically managed), using both critical and creative thinking practices that merge to motivate all freemarketeers to learn the capitalistic approach that best deals with the problems that yearn for the supply and demand method, making AMERICA a true land of possibilities.
That is ...what it's all about ---ALFIE .
I recommend the book: LIFTING DEPRESSION by: Dr. Kelly Lambert for a neuroscientific approach to the EFFORT DRIVEN REWARD system of our brains.
Very well written in a most productive prose for all readers.
Also consider the book: HUMAN by: Michael S. Gazzaniga for the science behind what makes us unique.
Note: Please extend your UNCONDITIONAL APPROVAL and ACCEPTANCE of the fact
that I 'misspelled' a particular word in the above review ...can you find it and pleeeeeezzzz forgive me ???
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Summary of Punished By Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes
The basic strategy we use for raising children, teaching students, and managing workers can be summarized in six words: Do this and you'll get that. We dangle goodies (from candy bars to sales commissions) in front of people in much the same way we train the family pet. Drawing on a wealth of psychological research, Alfie Kohn points the way to a more successful strategy based on working with people instead of doing things to them. "Do rewards motivate people?" asks Kohn. "Yes. They motivate people to get rewards." Seasoned with humor and familiar examples, Punished By Rewards presents an argument unsettling to hear but impossible to dismiss.Applied Psychology Books
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