Savage Love: Straight Answers from America's Most Popular Sex Columnist
by Dan Savage

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Book Review: Self Indulgent yet very, very funny (and helpful too.)
Summary: 5 Stars

However, people are hesitant to openly discuss their sexual desires and behaviors, for fear of reprisal or mockery. So, questions about the unknown go unasked and desires go unfulfilled, and sometimes painful mistakes result. It happens; ignorance about sex causes not just pregnancy and disease, but also unfulfillment, emotional distress and/or injury. Now, imagine an advice column that will answer your questions about sex, and does so in an irreverent, sassy and ultimately hilarious way. That makes an otherwise uneasy pill to swallow a joy.

Dan Savage's column is the only advice column that I've read that gives out advice to all people, regardless of desire, urge or kink. Whether you're gay, straight, bisexual, transsexual, transvestite, into a variety of other things, if you ask the question, it could be answered. That doesn't really happen anywhere else outside of your close friends, and sometimes you don't want to ask them these very private and personal questions, right?

Yes, he's quite proud of himself. Why shouldn't he be? He's got a great job and he's a great writer. (I'm supremely jealous of him, I suspect that others are as well.) He has a knack for delving to the issue being asked and answering it concisely, supplementing his advice with expert opinions if need be. He doesn't judge the people that write in, but he will judge their actions if he deems them the real problem, and he'll call 'em on it. If someone's sexual problem stems from an apparent relationship problem, he'll suggest that something be done about the relationship. He's not nice about bigotry and ignorance either, and he will use bad words. The horror.

He doesn't mince words, he says it straight up, and that's what I think perturbs some people about him and his column: he addresses sex and other forms of human relations more directly than anyone else has in print, and some people are unprepared for that. He's a sassy, outspoken guy. Friends, if he wasn't that way, there wouldn't be a book of his columns to sell. I laughed out loud the entire way through, because I recognized myself in the questions, recognized myself in the answers. I laughed at myself while reading it, and that feels almost as good as sex. :))

One last thought: Arguments about 'morals' are the easiest to make because they require little cognitive thought, they stem from simple emotional overreaction. Especially nowadays in America, making loud statements about morals, moreover claiming to 'have' them, does little else than quiet those branded 'immoral'; you will not change their minds. Everyone's morals are different, claiming moral superiority is a fallacy of thought. Everyone decides their morals for themselves, as it should be. Don't try to decide others' morals for them, you won't be successful, devote your time to yourself. If you have a hard time thinking about sex yourself--you feel guilty, ashamed or whatever, don't try to prevent others from discussing it. That's cowardly, not moral. Explore your fears and desires before you voice your 'moralistic' opinions, just open your mind (and your body). You'll feel better in soooo many ways.

Summary of Savage Love: Straight Answers from America's Most Popular Sex Columnist

Self-Help Books

• Subjects > Self-Help
• Health, Fitness & Dieting > Relationships > Love & Romance
• Sex
• Social Sciences