Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
by Molly Devon, Philip Miller

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
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Author: Molly Devon, Philip Miller
Brand: Fetish and Kinky
Edition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 1995
ISBN: 0964596008
Number of pages: 277
Publisher: Mystic Rose Books
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Book Reviews of Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism

Book Review: Funky sex is fun, too
Summary: 4 Stars

Together Philip Miller, who is dominant, and Molly Devon, a submissive, has written a book that contains more or less everything you'd ever want to know about sadomasochism, bondage, dominance/submission, and alternative and different sexual and non-sexual relationships. They both have lots of experience, and when they wrote Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, which was first published in 1995, they managed to put together what must be one of the most complete guidebooks ever written about these matters.

It's nothing new, there's thousands and thousands of help-yourself books dealing with human sexuality out there; but what makes this couple's contribution so different is that they write with a great sense of humor. And humor might not be the first thing you associate with stern Masters, tied-up slaves, and weird underground-clubs where people wearing freaky outfits do the freakiest things you could ever imagine.

But BDSM is, as the authors point out, something that's a great deal of FUN, and completely harmless and definitely not "wrong", as long as you know how to do it correctly. Some people want sex to be soft, sweet, romantic, and accompanied by the voice of Julio Iglesias. And some prefer to be tied up, whipped, humiliated, and dealt with brutally by a Master with a whip in his hand or a Mistress with stilettos and a thick strap-on. If you belong to this latter category, then please, don't miss this book.

Because this is one thorough piece of writing, written the perspective of the man being the dominant one with the woman being the submissive one, simply because that's how the authors' relationship looks. But as they themselves make very clear: their view of BDSM is not meant to be universal in any way, and thus both hetero- and homosexuals can make full use of this book.

Some of the issues dealt with include: what's it like being dominant? Being submissive? How do you communicate to make sure no one gets hurt? What different kinds of bondage techniques are there? How do you use your whip correctly? How do you furnish your dungeon? What kind of people can be found in the BDSM-scene? What material are you to use if you want to make your own toys?

And much, much, MUCH more. The book, furthermore, has a large number of pictures and illustrations, an extensive glossary, addresses to different companies and related organizations (mainly in the U.S. though), different internet addresses, fetish magazines, recommended books (both fiction and non-fiction), and more. So in other words, if you're into this way of life, no matter if you're experience or a beginner, you'll sure to find this book a real bargain. The only setback is the constant sense of humor that permeates every part of the book. Sometimes the text deals with quite serious stuff, and on these occasions the humor is nothing but redundant. However, this setback must still be considered to be only a minor one.

Summary of Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism

The classic guide to sadomasochism by two experienced players. This unabashed, entertaining book strips away myth, shame and fear, revealing the truth about an intense form of eroticism too long misunderstood and condemned. It is fully indexed and includes over 225 photos and illustrations, a 250-plus word glossary, appendices with over 650 contacts for SM related clubs, stores, craftspeople and literature.
Philip Miller and Molly Devon think that S/M is fun, and "that reading about it should be fun, too." Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns is definitely fun, not to mention approachable, chatty, and insightful. What makes it truly special, however, is the sheer weight of loving details. There's clear explanations and detailed tutorials for beginners, as general as "safe, sane, and consensual" and as specific as "you will be swinging the whip with your arm pivoting at the shoulder." There's also solid advice, safety measures, steamy suggestions, plenty of black-and-white photographs, useful and humorous drawings, an extensive glossary, and over 900 entries of S/M clothing and equipment vendors, publications, computer bulletin boards, and organizations worldwide. As sadomasochism is a practice that's still taboo for many people, the chapter on finding partners and sharing your fantasies with existing partners can be invaluable.

Screw the Roses enthusiastically covers all the basics and even some of the not-so-basics--bondage, negotiation, sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys, safety, S/M community, and beyond. It's written primarily from the point of view of male dominant/female submissive interactions, but it's easily translatable into valuable advice for any relationship configuration. Miller and Devon's explanations of not just the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism are honest, sexy, funny--and a must-have for anyone who wants to learn about sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, or bondage. --Cheryl Trooskin

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