Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem

Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
by Freda B. Friedman, Kimberlee Roth

Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem
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Author: Freda B. Friedman, Kimberlee Roth
Foreword: Randi Kreger
Edition: Paperback
Audio: English (Original Language); English (Unknown); English (Published)
Published: 2003-11
ISBN: 1572243287
Number of pages: 200
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
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Book Review: Making sense out of nonsense
Summary: 5 Stars

A big Thank You for a good read about surviving mental illness.
My heart goes out to all those who have had to tolerate or dissociate from BPD famiy members. For those who have sought treatment or being treated because of BPD or being raised by a BPD, I commend you. It takes awareness and courage to admit there's something wrong.

I am a 35 year old woman who married into a (not diagnosed)BPD family 15 years ago. Three years ago my husband cut ties with his mother, due to her illness. Since then I've been trying to figure out what's been going on considering I never had drama like this in my life. My husband is the oldest of 6 children, which 2(including my husband)out of 6 turned out all right. This book took the "I don't know answers out of the equation" My husband never knew how rotten his childhood was until years later. I can now relate to many adult children of BPD mothers. I have seen it and have felt the emotional abuse, even though I was not raised by a BPD parent. After trying for 12 years to have a healthy relationship with my BPD mother-in-law, I finally gave up. Like Dr. Christine Lawson says I have a Make-believe Mother-in-law. I'm glad what I know now so I can protect my children from future abuse. BPD can have a devastating affect on adult children too and their marriages. I just wish the authors would publish a book about how a healthy adult child (in-laws) could have a relationship with BPD-in-laws (if possible). Though my dear husband is much healthier now. Due to fear, he was unable to defend me and my beliefs against his mother. In his family, everything good was impossible and everything bad was acceptable. It was a real wake upcall for me that people can be this way. Looking back now, I can tell my husband had many BPD traits due to his upbringing, which is why I bought this book. I'm glad he could change and become mentally healthier and sense wrongdoing in his actions considering my mother-in-law cannot in hers.

Summary of Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem

Although relatively common, Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, is often overlooked or misdiagnosed by therapists and clinicians and denied by those who suffer from it.

Symptoms of this tragic problem include unpredictability, violence and uncontrollable anger, deep depression and self-abuse. Parents with BPD are often unable to provide for the basic physical and emotional needs of their children. In an ironic and painful role reversal, BPD parents can actually raise children to be their caretakers. They may burden even very young children with adult responsibilities. They tend to demand unreasonable levels of emotional and material support from those least able to provide it. Plagued by irrational fears and anxieties, BPD parents often transfer feelings of self-hatred onto their children. salting the wounds inflicted by their insatiable need with constant denigration and abuse.

If you were raised by a BPD parent, your childhood was a volatile and painful time. This book, the first written specifically for children of borderline parents, offers step-by-step guidance to understanding and overcoming the lasting effects of being raised by a person suffering from this disorder. Learn what psychological criteria are necessary for a BPD diagnosis and identify the specific characteristics your parent presents. Discover specific coping strategies for dealing with issues common to children of borderline parents: low self-esteem, lack of trust, guilt, and hypersensitivity. Make the major decision whether to confront your parent about his or her condition.

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