The Highly Sensitive Person
by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.
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Author: Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.Edition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 1997-06-02
ISBN: 0553062182
Number of pages: 251
Publisher: Broadway Books
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- ISBN13: 9780553062182
- Condition: New
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Book Reviews of The Highly Sensitive Person
Book Review: Follow Your Bliss & Let Your Light Shine Through.
Summary: 3 Stars
Highly sensitive people are most often "isolated individuals" and have trouble interacting with the overactive, highly motivated people. They're not afraid of being hurt and they generally are not frightened of crowds. Noise and confusion are things which do cause some concentration problems and a lack of ability to cope at times. Having anxiety attacks are very different from being sensitive, getting one's feelings hurt easily and often are the hardest things. You can see a person's soul in his eyes, and I met a sensitive writer with the gentlest blue eyes and it simply broke my heart. Luckily for him, his talent in research and transposing it into words everyone can understand has made him a hometown hero and a 'treasure."
E. M. Forester who wrote naval books many years ago said, "I believe in aristocracy...Not an aristocracy of power ... but of the sensitive, the considerate. Its members are to be found in all nations and social classes, and all through the ages." A few are great names, such as Einstein. They are sensitive for others as well as themselves; they are considerate and their luck is the power to endure.
Military men, especially, lack sensitivity because of the cruel basic training they must live through. It was described in a college paper as a Hell on Earth and they were treated as non-humans but more like vermin. After they retire from their varied fields, they are so proud of themselves for having gone through "Ranger" school and other special forces training, that they don't have a sensitive bone in their whole body. They are like the autistic child, cannot put themselves in the other person's shoes or emphathize, as their opinion is definite and "always right," not to ever be changed. They don't know the word "compromise" as the military don't do that; only the leaders know how to "back down" in the face of fierce oppositon.
It almost always begins in childhood when an adult says, "you are too sensitive for your own good" or "you are your own worst enemy." No one wants to be talked down to like that at any stage in life and, especially in childhood, there is no way to retaliate for such unfeeling and uncaring comments. Being sensitive is not any kind of syndrome. It is just being and having your feelings on your sleeve for anyone and everyone to step on and cause you severe pain. Sometimes, you can outgrow it if you find the right mate and have a loving marriage and family.
Being introverted, shy and inhibited does not necessarily mean that the person is highly-sensitive. We all need to be sensitive to a degree, though men are not supposed to possess that trait. But, do you know what, women love the men who do! My middle son was artistic, highly-intelligent and talented, but did a lot of crying for some reason on his birthday. I have looked at his birthday photos and seen those red-rimmed eyes and wonder what did I do wrong. I did all I could to make his day happy and cooked his favorite foods and always a birthday cake. But he still was not happy. He had one good friend was was extroverted, but a big liar and had few ethics as his family had deserted him as a child -- and he felt inferior. They were in the band together -- Kenny played trumpet while my son had the trombone. Kenny had an orange Mustang and the two of them enjoyed riding around town and being admired. The sensitive one and the extroverted fool. So, what does my artistic son do -- get into sports to compensate, and the not-so-smart students thought he was a 'tough' guy. He hid his light under a bushel because some poorly-trained teachers had no sensitivity and told him that he was not as smart as his older brother.
I was a talented, pretty motherless girl, but shy. Put me before the t.v. camera pantomiming Teresa Brewer, and that shyness evaporated and I became a star on Your Startime on Channel 6, WATE. On other radio and t.v. shows, I was the only child without a pushing mother, but I got on the air because I believed in myself -- thanks to an understanding grandfather who also sang on the radio, though a different kind of music. When I sang, the songs came out exactly like they sounded on the Hit Parade, my favorite show after the Eddie Fisher 'Coke Time.' I was born with music in my soul, a shyness because I was poor, and the feeling that I was as good as anyone in this town.
Hyper-sensitivity is almost the same as hyper-thyroidism only in a different direction. I've had both and they mingle nicely as you get older to make you able to do things others can't and would never think of doing. You can become intrepid and people think that you are not sensitive but tough (like Zach). They may be a little afraid of what might come out of your mouth, but they also admire your courage and ability to get things done.
Elaine Aron graduated from the University of California at Berkley, and became a college teacher, therapist, psychologist, and novelist in that order. I am always against mental health workers using their clients as scapegoats by putting them in books to be disected. In Pulaski, on a weekly talk show, the director of the Mental Health Center was a regular who talked about the poor clients (of course, he did not use their names, but he did divulge personal and private information on the air) and made fun of some of them. He ended up leaving his career dental hygienist for one of the crazies, to live happily ever after in loo-loo land.
Highly sensitive people should never be made fun of or used for the monetary profit of their therapists. But I do believe that many do such an unethical practice and charge the government excessive amounts for "using" these folks as guinea pigs.
Summary of The Highly Sensitive Person
Are you a highly sensitive person?Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you "too shy" or "too sensitive" according to others? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while, but for the Highly Sensitive Person, it's a way of life. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Elaine Aron, a psychotherapist, workshop leader and highly sensitive person herself, shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations. Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews, she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller, richer life.
In The Highly Sensitive Person , you will discover:
* Self-assessment tests to help you identify your particular sensitivities
* Ways to reframe your past experiences in a positive light and gain greater self-esteem in the process
* Insight into how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships
* Tips on how to deal with overarousal
* Informations on medications and when to seek help
* Techniques to enrich the soul and spirit
Are you an HSP? Are you easily overwhelmed by stimuli? Affected by other people's moods? Easily startled? Do you need to withdraw during busy times to a private, quiet place? Do you get nervous or shaky if someone is observing you or competing with you? HSP, shorthand for "highly sensitive person," describes 15 to 20 percent of the population. Being sensitive is a normal trait--nothing defective about it. But you may not realize that, because society rewards the outgoing personality and treats shyness and sensitivity as something to be overcome. According to author Elaine Aron (herself an HSP), sensitive people have the unusual ability to sense subtleties, spot or avoid errors, concentrate deeply, and delve deeply. This book helps HSPs to understand themselves and their sensitive trait and its impact on personal history, career, relationships, and inner life. The book offers advice for typical problems. For example, you learn strategies for coping with overarousal, overcoming social discomfort, being in love relationships, managing job challenges, and much more. The author covers a lot of material clearly, in an approachable style, using case studies, self-tests, and exercises to bring the information home. The book is essential for you if you are an HSP--you'll learn a lot about yourself. It's also useful for people in a relationship with an HSP. --Joan Price
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