The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition
by Bernie Zilbergeld
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Author: Bernie ZilbergeldEdition: Paperback
Audio: English (Unknown); English (Original Language); English (Published)
Published: 1999-07-06
ISBN: 0553380427
Number of pages: 432
Publisher: Bantam
Book Reviews of The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition
Book Review: EXCELLENT BOOK - BUT DR ZILBERGELD BADLY NEEDS TO DO AN UPDATE
Summary: 4 Stars
I've just read The New Male Sexuality and I've got to say, I'm really impressed... It is so rare to find a self-help book FOR MEN (most of that genre is very female oriented) and Dr Zilbergeld is very male-positive...
I also liked how he discussed the socialization of little boys - how young males learn that they should supress their feelings - "boys don't cry" - and the doctor's theory that this is the cause of much misery for adult males...
I heartily agree with Zilbergeld's conclusions here...
I only have a few criticisms...
Dr Zilbergeld tends to have a sociobiological view of modern behavior - he tends to present cultural gender roles as if they are biologically determined... This tends to undermine his arguments about male socialization (and, due to the radical differences in gender behavior in different societies, this view is fundamentally incorrect)
Also, Dr Zilbergeld tends to assume that every male is in a long term monogomous relationship... This is far from true (hell, that's the reason that I brought this book in the first place) and it would be helpful if he focused more of his advice for guys like me who don't have a woman..
Finally, the biggest flaw...
Apparently, Zilbergeld originally wrote this book a long time ago (the copyright info says the first edition was published in 1992)... and it shows...
Women (especialy women my age and younger - I'm 38) have changed a whole hell of a lot...
When Zelbergeld did the surveys, apparently most women were still looking for love and didn't like sex for sex's sake, like men stereotypically do...
THIS IS NO LONGER THE CASE...
In my experience over the last decade or so, many women these days basically dislike men...
They need males because men, on average, make more money than women (but women have a higher cost of living) and, of course, most women want to have babies, and you can't do that without male DNA... other than cash and genetic material, they'd rather not be bothered with us...
Also, many modern women can be as crass, vulgar and unemotional about sex as only men used to be...
For instance, in the section on penis size, Dr Zilbergeld claims that "size doesn't matter" to most women and women are, supposedly, very understanding about males who are 'undersized'
I beg to differ...
In my experience, women are VERY much concerned about size... and you WILL get ridiculed if the woman you're with thinks you are inadequate in that department....
The same for performance issues - if you aren't up to the task, many women will get really mad and start insulting you (they might even accuse you of being gay)
Women aren't as nice as they used to be....
There probably wern't that many of these women out there when Dr Zilbergeld did his original surveys....
There most certainly are now (especially in places like Manhattan, where I live)...
It's not as simple as it used to be... and assuming that all women aspire to a deep emotional connection above all else can be a very dangerous thing to do...
Basically, I think that Dr Zilbergeld needs to do an updating of this otherwise excellent book (but with all new interviews of this new generation of women - who are VERY different than their mothers and grandmothers when it comes to sexuality)
Still, this is an excellent read and a must buy for men looking for serious relationship advice intended for a male audience...
Summary of The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition
The New Male Sexuality addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them. Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences. the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling.Clear, comprehensive, witty, and refreshingly realistic, The New Male Sexuality is destined to be a classic of the nineties and beyond.
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